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We live in a white supremacist society that promotes a racialized and gendered hierarchy.So, as Black queer men, we have male privilege that largely provides us with protection from things like the gender-based violence women face every day.Phrases like “no blacks” are pervasive on apps like Grindr and Scruff.
And finally, we live in a world that provides white people with privilege while constantly affirming their whiteness at the cost of Blackness.I know it can be hard to find the right words while expressing your preferences when it comes to what you’re looking for in a partner. really lost, when it comes to stating your preferences properly.To be clear, you’re allowed to describe the kind of guy you’re looking for and the things that turn you on but specifying the race of your desired partner is a line that is not to be crossed. I should point out that I’ve had this conversation with more than a couple of white gays in person and here is where the debate usually begins, so I’m going to assume that you’re rolling your eyes at me right about now.That privilege elevates white, gay men above men of color. If we hope to eradicate racism within the gay community, white gay men must acknowledge their privilege — and the way it's used, in ways subtle and not, to denigrate minorities.As a Latino gay man, I know firsthand that my skin color affects how I interact with the larger community.